A month or so ago, I was telling one of my guy co-workers about this guy I briefly met at a beach last summer and how he randomly texts me without some sort of greeting first. Instead, he would just straight up ask me or invite me out like, “There’s a party at ____ tonight, you should come through” or “Bonfire and brew is where you should be!” or “Let’s have breakfast/lunch” or my favorite, “Wanna drink?” -_- Have I mentioned something similar to this before? Because I think I have. Yeah.

Well I was complaining expressing to my co-worker that we NEVER hung out or saw each other besides initially meeting. I told him numerous times “NO” or that I’m busy, so shouldn’t he take a hint by now? I mean, it’s been almost a year since we met. And my co-worker’s answer surprised me, yet it was expected. 

He said, “If you respond, even with a no, it still means yes and there’s still hope for him. A definite no would be just not to respond to him.” O.O SERIOUSLY?!?

First off, it’s not my nature to ignore someone. I find it rude to ignore someone and I want to at least give the courtesy of giving some kind of answer, even if I have to let them down. But apparently, I shouldn’t do that. And the more I’m STILL experiencing things like that and noticing that not responding actually works, the more I’m doing it to get certain people off my back. I didn’t realize I need to tread carefully around people, even when I think they’re my friend. That seems… creepy in the way that you think everything is normal, but they have some secret weird thing. I dunno.

Guys can be pretty persevering when it simply comes to talking to someone, but I still think ten million NO’S is more than enough of a hint, right?